Posted by luckygal on December 12, 2008, at 22:33:33 [reposted on December 13, 2008, at 11:57:28 | original URL]
I had a bothersome encounter with a therapist today and wanted some feedback. To give some background, I've had therapy in the past but feel like I need a tune up and can't go back to the therapist I used before (she moved). So I made an appointment with a new therapist, the first appointment was last week and she was 20 minutes late, supposedly because she had a couple emergency calls and got behind. I was a bit wary, but gave her the benefit of the doubt. My next appointment was today and she was once again late. I waited for 15 minutes, but she still didn't come out so I left since I didn't want to work with someone who couldn't be on time regularly. I called when I got home, explained why I had left and that having her as my therapist wasn't going to work for me. She called back and basically put the blame on me by telling me that I was expected to wait for 30 minutes otherwise it was considered a no show. She never apologized, when I tried to explain why being that late that often wasn't OK with me, she told me that it sounded like being prompt was really important to me and that she'd be happy to work with me on that issue.
Am I being unreasonable by wanting someone who is generally on time? I've never had this problem with therapists before, but maybe I've just been lucky? It also bugs me that she wouldn't take any ownership for being late and instead made it out to be my problem for being bothered by it.
poster:luckygal
thread:868473
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20081205/msgs/868473.html