Posted by Dinah on December 14, 2008, at 10:15:53
In reply to Bothersome incident with therapist, posted by luckygal on December 13, 2008, at 11:57:28
It's my observation that my therapist seems to think that fifty minute sessions run from ten after until the hour. If he's later than that he apologizes. I don't much start to get annoyed until twenty after. By twentyfive after, I've planned my breezy exit. (That almost never has happened.)
There are a few things about it that annoy me. I've been late a handful of times in my therapy. The first time, he moved as if to close the session at ten to, and I blessed him out thoroughly because it was very unlikely he'd have come out until ten after anyway. And occasionally, although I'm certain he doesn't do it consciously, he catches up time on me. I generally make note of the time as I sit down, and remind him if he tries to short me. Unless I'd prefer to leave.
He has many fine and useful qualities, and the time thing is annoying, but I can live with it. Especially since I've grown able to bring it up in a reasonably nonconfrontational way, rather than letting it fester.
I'd be more concerned with her defensiveness and inability to own her part of an interaction. That is a quality I'm unwilling to accept in a therapist.
But that's me. Not everyone is willing to accept chronically late. Everyone has different things they are/aren't willing to tolerate in a therapist. Which seems totally fair, really.
poster:Dinah
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