Posted by turtle on December 7, 2008, at 22:48:19
In reply to little verbal abuse trigger, posted by obsidian on December 7, 2008, at 15:25:36
Sid -
I'd like to echo what the other's said in that I'm glad you felt able to share a bit of what it was like for you growing up. It is exhausting to be with someone who whips you around with their ups and downs.
Disconnecting and not responding is effective in limiting the backlash that comes at you, but has a side effect of causing all sorts of problems as you repress yourself. I can see how always expecting backlash could make it difficult to feel open to posting.
Has this effected your therapy much? I notice that I expect to step into land mines in therapy too, and when it doesn't happen I tend to be suspicious. I tend to think that my therapist must have pockets of the negative stuff hidden somewhere, but is just good at suppressing it for now and I'll run into it sooner or later. It's got to be in there somewhere, but she doesn't talk enough for me to know where the hidden dangers are yet. I'm not sure that I really understand the 'being there for me' and being nonjudgmental yet. Maybe with more time! I think I have some of the same duck and cover response/fears after I post too.
thanks,
turtle
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