Posted by lemonaide on October 18, 2008, at 13:10:57
In reply to Re: Too much disclosure is not a good thing, posted by Dinah on October 18, 2008, at 10:55:04
Maybe what I should have said certain types of disclosure, even a little bit of it, is not a good thing.
Like knowing my T and his wife don't have oral sex, I am not sure if knowing this is helpful in any context. Knowing about my T's relationship with his wife, like her ignoring him sometimes, is wrong. Telling me one night stand are fun, stuff like this. OR telling me he bought a vagina sucker and very suggestively saying he ate it looking at me. (probably due to his fantasies of wanting it)
So some disclosure can be helpful, I am sure some has helped me from both T's, but either I got too much or inappropriate disclosure.
But what is cool about no disclosure or very little is that the world revolves around yourself for just 50 min a week. How cool is that? I think with both my guy T's, they like to talk about themselves, just like most people.
That is my little secret about social functions, most people do like to talk about themselves, so if you can open up a conversation and ask them questions about them, they will go on and on. You get practice with social graces, without having to put your foot in your mouth so much. I have never met anyone who I couldn't get to talk. I am a lot less conscious of talking in social groups now, in fact I have become gregarious, most would never guess I was so shy I wanted to hide from others.
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