Posted by muffled on October 17, 2008, at 12:51:39
In reply to Too much disclosure is not a good thing, posted by lemonaide on October 16, 2008, at 20:44:47
Interestingly, my first T has generally looser boundaries. It is how she practices. And for the work she mostly does, and the nature of her practice, it works well for her.
I feel extreemly fortunate that I stumbled upon her, as she was just what I needed to PRY me out of where I was hiding. She worked SO hard to meet me at where I was at.
I think with a strong boundaried T I would NEVER have emerged. NEVER.
However, once I was able to speak, and I was able to gain some knowledge as to what was happening with me, then the looser boundaries because a problem. That problem MAY have been surmountable, I don't know, but the greater problem was my T did not have much understanding/training in trauma/dissociation. So it was time to move on to another T for the next phase of therapy.
Yes, the boundary issues did cause some problems at times, but we talked thru them and worked it out, and learned from it.
So, sometimes, boundary pushing is OK, it just has to be thot thru first, and in the end, you may have to pay for it by needing to switch T's. And thats OK.
For me it was worth it.
Everybodies therapy is different.
I think like lemonaide said, with her old T, he probably did disclose too much, but he did also help her, and she learned from him, but then it was time to move on.
I think you are a very wise woman Lemonaid.
And your sure right about 'mental' health just being 'health'. Its a slow slow process it seems to get mental health problems out of the closet. To have less stigma associated with it.
Nice post Lemon. I think this new T of yours may be a keeper.
Hope you touch base here from time to time and let us know how its going.
I told my new T that I want strong boundaries. She's let a coupla things slip, but mostly I know nothing and that's fine by me :-)
Good to see you here.
Muffled
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