Posted by Dinah on October 17, 2008, at 22:06:03
In reply to Re: I'm not sure what to do » Dinah, posted by Midnightblue on October 17, 2008, at 21:53:48
I did talk to him a lot about it today. It's funny. When I first brought it up, I thought I should do it and he wasn't that gung ho about it. Now he seems really enthusiastic, and I'm retreating into reluctance.
I think he does understand the problems. He is giving it serious consideration, and I suspect he's going to maybe consult about it himself. But he's an optimist by nature. I always refer to it as his near delusional optimism. :) It's something I need in a therapist, but there are times when it makes me want to lean back a bit and make sure I'm not being swept along.
I think we thoroughly addressed the concern about whether he'd remain safe. He does share my concern about that. He doesn't want me to feel unsafe around him any more than I do.
Maybe I didn't as thoroughly discuss my fears that he's got too high expectations for this. If at the end we're wildly successful, all that will mean is that I won't be afraid of vomit. Not that I'll reverse years of what arose from my self help attempts at managing my phobia.