Posted by onceupon on September 5, 2008, at 8:50:07
In reply to Re: Maternal transference (oh so long post), posted by sassyfrancesca on September 4, 2008, at 15:26:17
> Oh, I understand. Feelings are facts...they are not....right or wrong....they just are; and should be honored an validated.
Thanks, sassyfrancesca. I keep trying to remind myself of this, but it's hard to hold onto sometimes, you know?
> I am 61 years old (still feeling like a teenager), and had an abusive mother (never knew my father), so I was abandoned emotionally by a mother, and physically by a father.
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> It is natural to want what we never had, and t's are (or should be) trained to understand all of that. Perhaps you could write a letter to your mother about all of your thoughts and feelings, etc.......send or don't send with the help/advice of your t.I did write a letter to my mom years ago, and gave it to her, but found talking about it (or not talking about it, as it were) excruciating. But maybe this is a good time to revisit this idea.
> My t told me that my "friends have become my family." That is true; I share my life with them......Yeah, the family I married into (i.e., my husband and son) are my family now.
> I think as much/or as more talking you do with your t on your feelings, etc.......that will help.
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> Feelings are facts.....
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> Hugs, SassyThanks :)
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