Posted by lemonaide on September 5, 2008, at 8:22:39
In reply to Maternal transference (oh so long post), posted by onceupon on September 4, 2008, at 14:20:06
Hi onceupon,
I think knowing what you are missing in your life is a huge progress in therapy. Maybe you are looking for it with others, but I think that is only normal. Don't we all want to be loved, hugged, and wrapped up in a blanket to keep warm and protected? I do, I know. I wish my T could be my father sometimes, he has 6 kids what is one more? I just wonder if we can ever get that need met in real life.
I guess maybe we need to learn how to comfort ourselves, which is odd to say because kids who had good parents know how to do this. It is like they don't need their parents like they did when they were younger because of the good job the parent did.
But it is the ones like us who didn't have that comfort, that still long for it even as an adult.
I am still trying to work out all of this too, these are just some misc. ideas I am thinking about it. I hope it was okay to write this.
poster:lemonaide
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