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Re: And today's session » Lemonaide

Posted by Partlycloudy on August 14, 2008, at 18:22:23

In reply to Re: And today's session, posted by Lemonaide on August 14, 2008, at 16:41:51

Yeah. Even though I came into this marriage after the children were grown, I can now see, by having this 26 year old woman living with us, but who is emotionally about 14; that hearing anything remotely like "advice" or "suggestions" from me just comes across as the horrible step mother being judgmental. The fact is, she keeps screwing things up, and I act as a type of mirror to her. She's uncomfortable with what I reflect back to her, and then she retreats, and isolates herself. When I came back from my out of town trip, she pointedly ignored me completely, not even noticing that I was in the room. That really hurt, but I kept telling myself, "14 years old. She acts like she's 14 old. She's not acting like a mature, 26 year old woman."

This morning there was a handwritten apology from her to us both. Still an awkward situation, but she is trying really hard at the moment. I even cooked us a family dinner this evening. I haven't even remotely felt like doing such a thing for a long time.

(It's so nice to be able to talk with you again, Lemonaide.)

 

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