Posted by Lucie Lu on July 7, 2008, at 20:06:00
In reply to My therapist thinks my situation is hopeless, posted by Dinah on July 7, 2008, at 11:48:52
Dinah, that is such a horrible situation :( and an awful dilemma for you to be presented with. When I first read your story I felt really bad - and yet oddly immobilized and couldn't think of anything to say. Then I read the posts from the others (they were really good) and I realized why I felt so immobilized. Growing up with alcoholic parents, I often felt hopeless and immobilized like this as they seemed to be systematically ruining their health and lives. I have to say that even as an adult I was rarely able to work through most of their problems, which were abundant because alcoholics have this infuriating genius capability to get themselves and you in no-win positions. And yet, unbelievably (at least to me), just as I felt most hopeless, they'd turn around and somehow land on their feet in some crazy way I never would have anticipated. And other people, who did not have the same frame of reference as me, often could come up with alternative viewpoints or ideas about that wouldn't have made it into my brain. But I understand your feelings and how dscouraged and torn you must feel. All I can suggest is to keep talking to people, to anyone, tell your story as many times as you can stand it, and I really believe someone out there will appear to help you. Or she will somehow manage to do things her own way and get by without your help.
Sorry I can't be more help, it's a blind spot of mine, but if you keep posting, I promise I'll keep trying.
Wishing you all the best, Lucie