Posted by meme3842 on June 18, 2008, at 0:27:59
In reply to Re: Daisym's comment made me think » meme3842, posted by rskontos on June 17, 2008, at 20:49:47
rsk,
Another author who wrote a really good book on attachment theory in general is Robert Karen. The book is called Becoming Attached. It talks about our early relationships and how they are a blueprint for later relationships.Yeah, I have talked about how neglect may have affected me in therapy. I mean, I know it has, given that I am in my thirties, single, with no kids. So my theory is that I am pretty well guarded and if I grew up that way, then it has probably carried over today. I probably don't trust or love people easily, because they may or may not be there tomorrow. At the same time, I don't want to say that my pathetic life is directly related to the fact that I may or may not have been neglected. It could be personality too--me being shy and socially anxious. I don't know. I guess I would feel really bad to say that i was neglected, because I know that given the circumstances my mother did what she could, and that she loved us in her weird inconsistant ways. So I guess I would feel guilty to say that I was neglected. I used to disociate a lot, but my previous therapist was really good about teaching me to ground myself. So now I daydream, which is entirely different, and more fun. :)
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