Posted by rskontos on June 17, 2008, at 20:49:47
In reply to Re: Daisym's comment made me think, posted by meme3842 on June 17, 2008, at 19:07:14
Meme, I did not think of it either as being anything, but then again I am very dissociative, think DD, so I feel I just woke up from being in a fog. And until my therapists told me that the way I grew up was not even close to normal I thought that was the way mom's and dad's were. I had a place to eat and sleep, they just weren't safe nor secure from day to day. As far back as a toddler.
I will look for Bowlby's research. I found some today. I don't attach to people. It was hard to attach to my children even. And as for my H, he is a loner. My p-doc says that I am never in relationships wereby I am not in charge. I guess it is a must for me. I never looked at that way. But in charge or not, I still don't stay attached. The minute I leave I am gone. And I never look back. So I guess the research is right. I had not read any or thought about it before so Daisym's comment really hit home.
rsk
Do you talk about how it affected you or still affects you?
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