Posted by muffled on June 11, 2008, at 20:05:01
In reply to Called my old T today and left a message, posted by Happyflower on June 11, 2008, at 13:08:37
hey HF.
I already know you have no shortage of guts.
I also know that you feel things strongly.
I know you can be triggered and suffer badly as a result.
I know you have justifiably strong feelings about old T. ALOT of them. And BIG feelings. Very big.
So I wonder if you should NOT meet w/oldT unless you present T is available in case of fallout. It sounded like your T would not be around?
I wonder if you will be feeding old T's ego by seeing him?
I wonder if on some level, despite yourself you have other reasons to want to reconnect with him besides just closure....
Your relationship w/old T was INTENSE.
I know you have alot of strength, but I also think you are playing with fire.
You seem to have alot of respect fpr your present T. It might be nice if you had some in depth discussion with him about it BEFORE you go. Then you can be ready, you can be clear. Waiting a few weeks shouldn't change things. It might be hard to wait, but wise.
If on the off chance your oldT died B4 you met with him, which seems unlikely, then you know you were ready to try and can forgive yourself.
So really, IMHO, I hope you take your time with going into this. This is a BIG deal it really is.
Hope you take good care HF.
I want you to be OK.
LOL I NOT calling you a fool, but that saying is ringing thru my mind, cuz everybody is saying how brave you are...
"fools rush in where angels fear to tread".
(((((((((((((HF))))))))))))))
Be safe.
M
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