Posted by Lucie Lu on June 3, 2008, at 20:39:03
In reply to Re: ddnos switched in front of T bad one, embarrassed » lucie lu, posted by star008 on June 3, 2008, at 17:05:02
Star, did you meet with your T yet? You know, when I was in the worst of it, all fragmented like you're feeling, what was most comforting was my T's attitude, he was like, it's all OK, don't panic, there's just a whole spectrum of dissociative experiences and you can be anywhere on it. He was calming and soothing without downplaying my distress. I felt encouraged, like I could move anywhere on that spectrum and he would be there with me and also that I was not stuck being in the worst places but it was OK when I was. It helped me that he could empathize with my distress while still helping us both believe in the prospects for my recovery. It also helped to not feel like I was locked into a diagnosis, that I was more than a diagnosis and that every case, my case, was completely individual and never something out of a textbook. He was so right. Integration is not a state you are in or out of so much as a process that goes on for many of us throughout our lives. I still tend to fragment under stress (like now, as a matter of fact!) but get more and more integrated as the years go by. My T taught me you can be very injured and yet always still be healing. I hope you can feel the same. You are obviously at one of your distressed places. I feel for you and wish you all the best. -LL
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