Posted by raisinb on May 30, 2008, at 10:23:02
In reply to And now, something new afterall - trigger, posted by DAisym on May 29, 2008, at 20:09:19
Goodness, Daisy, I admire the fact that you were able to talk about those things at all. My therapist has tried to push me into that area, but I have refused to go there. She is just soooo suburban-conventional looking that it seems embarrassing to verbalize those things.
I usually get turned on a) when she's wearing something particularly flattering, or, more often, b) when she abruptly comes closer, emotionally--asks a hard or pointed question that gets at the heart of what I am feeling but was trying to hide, or (which is harder to figure out) when she does something that makes her more vulnerable--like cries, or uses an emotional tone of voice.
In these moments, I do fee a little fear, and an emotional jolt, like a roller-coaster excitement that goes all over my body and down my legs. Arousal is part of that, but it is a full-on emotional and physical response.
I am glad you posted this; I'd never thought about it so specifically before.
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