Posted by rskontos on May 23, 2008, at 22:51:12
In reply to Re: had another bad one last night, posted by Daisym on May 23, 2008, at 20:26:32
raisinb,
for what it is worth, i am in agreement with Dinah and Daisym. It would seem that any relationship and especially a supposedly therapeutic one would not cause so much anguish. For me, when it goes over into my dream state then I know the relationship must be examined or when it causes me so much anxiety during the day I must use xanax. I think IMHO that this relationship, much like my own T relationship, has caused you a great deal of anguish.
In reading the above post that you have expressed to her how she is not meeting your goals, needs and wants even as far back as a year ago, I believe your mind is trying to help you work through a relationship that seems to be more damaging than good for you.
I know ultimately only you can decide but when an issue invades your dream state I believe that your subconsciousness is trying to help you work out an issue that is extremely vital to your well-being. I think it is an important issue and I think that probably only in an separation will you be able to gain the perspective necessary to truly see the extent of the net gain in this therapist/therapee relationship.
But since the dreams are being consecutive, it does seem like you need outside guidance perhaps, and definitely a break from her or possibly a whole new outlook.
It would be totally harmful for you to stay as punishment and I hope that is something you can reconcil so you don't do this.
You do need to listen to this inner voice. Take it from me those inner voices do have alot of good advice. I know I would not be alive without mine.
rsk
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