Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2008, at 2:37:13
In reply to Re: Ladybug, how are you doing?, posted by LadyBug on April 28, 2008, at 23:10:16
Well, I'm sorry to hear about all you're going through. But I'm really glad you felt able to share it. You've been part of Babble for a long time. I'm glad you are here, and talking to us.
Unfortunately, what I would do about your therapist is heavily weighted by who I am as a person. Once I attach myself to someone, it's very hard for me to let go unless there is no alternative left. I'm not sure the first or the tenth time or the fiftieth time someone said something hurtful to me, that I would give up on the relationship on my end. Not unless I grew to view the person differently. Which certainly does happen.
But that's me, and my own set of issues and life experiences. I'm not even sure if it's the best thing to do for myself, never mind anyone else. Sometimes I find myself glad I am the way I am. Sometimes not so much.
I couldn't in all honesty recommend that path to anyone else, because it's too tied in with what I need. If that makes sense.
I'd say listen to your intuition. Put aside the hurt and the anger as much as you can, and listen to the still small voice inside. Maybe this is the right time to leave. Maybe you need to see her one last time. Maybe you need to fight it out. Maybe you need to let her go. I know it must be hard to find stillness right now. I often go into the bathtub and let the water run over my hand, and concentrate on how that feels and relax and listen to the still small voice, because a lot of times I already have the answer.
poster:Dinah
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