Posted by seldomseen on April 3, 2008, at 7:11:52
In reply to Re: Your Therapist's Web Site » sunnydays, posted by DAisym on April 2, 2008, at 12:35:56
Daisy,
You have got to be one of the bravest people I have ever come across. I know we talk about how wonderful your T is all the time (If mine weren't so great, I would want yours too (and sunnydays' and dinah's!)), but you are the one that is doing all of the work.Regarding this feeling
" But it didn't matter when I started, I had no idea that I wouldn't want the ending. The deeper and more attached I get, the more the ending feels like death - inevitable at some point, not preventable, and devasting."Have you considered that this feeling just means that you value the relationship with your T a lot and you don't want to lose it?
Sometimes I think we've learned too well NOT to value relationships because they "turn" on us or just end.
Our T's are not going to turn on us, but this relationship has the potential to end.
My T and I have a contract that this relationship will not end until both of us mutually agree on it. He'll be there as long as I want him there.
Right now, for me, it's never going to end. I fully intend to go to a nursing home to see him if I need to. The ending is under my control.
Maybe you and your T can talk about this and do something similar.
It really helped me to feel safe about valuing our relationship.
Seldom
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