Posted by Dinah on March 22, 2008, at 11:33:12
In reply to no hugs, no nothing, posted by sunnydays on March 22, 2008, at 11:10:23
I should add that I think it's great that you were able to be honest with him.
Early in therapy, both my mother and husband met him. With my mother it was purely accidental. And both considered my therapist attractive, and made a few remarks that that was why I stayed in therapy for so long. It wasn't true, not to me. My idea of attractive is way different. Other than the fact that my therapist is very tall and very large, which makes me feel safe and probably contributes to whatever my transference might be, I've always felt safe that his looks weren't the sort that appealed to me. I'd be scared to be in therapy with, say, Dr. Drew.
When my husband met again with my therapist a couple of years ago, he mentioned that he was surprised that he had remembered my therapist as being more handsome than he actually was. I guess part of it was his own fears and insecurities.
But I never ever told my therapist that. I mean, if he happened to ask, I'd tell him what my mother and husband said. But I don't think I'd volunteer it.
I think that was brave of you.
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