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Re: Homework Help Needed DAisym

Posted by raisinb on March 6, 2008, at 12:56:13

In reply to Homework Help Needed, posted by DAisym on March 5, 2008, at 19:47:56

That IS tough. It would be tough for me, too, becaus I find so often that what I think and fantasize I need isn't always necessary--or even might not be what I *really* want.

For instance, I've fantasized forever about my T holding me. But when I'm in there and she says something very gentle and kind and her voice is in the right register, I don't need her to touch me.

To make it more complicated, sometimes I'm in a session and I think--what if she actually *did* move over here and give me a hug? Yikes! I'd freak out!

I've also had the experience of feeling terrified and conflicted over calling--only to have everything disappear--even the need *to* call--when she says, "please call if you need to." So I didn't need to call--I needed to know she was there if I needed her, which is slightly different.

I think it's very difficult, if you've never been taught to think your needs are ok and to ask to get them met, to even know, realistically, what they *are.* So I'd have a pretty difficult time doing what your T asked you to do.

Kind of a ramble, but I hope it makes some sense.


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