Posted by Kath on February 29, 2008, at 22:08:07
In reply to Re: attacked (verbally) in group » Kath, posted by sunnydays on February 29, 2008, at 21:40:32
Holy - talk about "you-messages". They sure don't sound very nice. Of course I bend myself into a pretzel trying to find a way to say things so a person could NOT get their feelings hurt!!!
I can imagine the tones of voice. Anyone who would word things like that - well.
For ex - "well, I've found that if I look at a person when I'm talking to them, I sometimes am more likely to have a positive experience" or "well, I've found that if I think of how the other person might feel...." etc.
There are ways and WAYS of saying things.
Being in group with trainees sounds scarey to me. I'm so glad your T is so supportive.
I agree with rskontos that if you can find a way to protect yourself, it'd be good. How often is the group? Maybe it would be better to sit back if only 1 leader is there. If there are 2, maybe one of them would pick up on the fact that you were being traumatized.
I get really protective of people I like & especially if I think others aren't treating them well. It's probably a VERY good thing that I am nowhere near, etc. I'd feel like going trampling in like a big elephant & trumpetting!!! :-))
I hope things smooth out.
hugs, Kath
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