Posted by rskontos on February 29, 2008, at 19:53:26
In reply to attacked (verbally) in group, posted by sunnydays on February 29, 2008, at 17:10:10
Sunnydays, I think it means that the other people were projecting their feelings onto you versus owning them themselves. This allows them not to take ownership of the feelings and dump them into you lap. That is why you feel ganged up on. You being sensitive and wanting to help has allowed them to do this, and it seems a great many has done this and the leader is powerless to stop it, you must. Maybe tomorrow you need to be more silent and take back your power. Only speak if it is in your best interest and if your T there to assist you. Please don't allow this group situation to traumatize you further. It sounds like it could be. Not being there, it is hard to know exactly how you are allowing this, but you must find your strength to stand up to them. Either silently or tell them how they have made you feel and they must stop.
I hope you find your voice, or the leader helps. In therapy you should not feel this way, I don't like to see you hurt. You have been doing well and making progress. I wish you luck, you are strong. Tell yourself that and don't let them project their issues on you. I feel for you and your crying through a whole session. that is no way to have to have a group session. I send strong vibes for tomorrow ((((((sunnydays))))))
rsk
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