Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2008, at 0:13:13
In reply to Re: 2/5/08 » Dinah, posted by Happyflower on February 5, 2008, at 20:36:35
I'm sorry about your class, Happyflower. That must have been upsetting when you've been so happy at school.
I'm never one to believe that anything is owed to anyone just because they are related. But I think there's a possibility that her card isn't a manipulation. She's likely getting older, and a lot of people start thinking about their lives and wanting to mend connections. Which doesn't mean you have to be open to it on your part. Especially if she doesn't accept the boundary of not pressuring you about your mother.
I've had the experience of having relatives who had always seemed critical of me suddenly acting nicer as they got older. I was cautious naturally, but in my case their change of behavior was genuine and we ended up on better terms than I would have considered possible.
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