Posted by sunnydays on February 1, 2008, at 10:42:20
In reply to Fighting to Relationship - Again + thanks, posted by Daisym on February 1, 2008, at 0:36:19
I love your T. I was so glad you posted this today, because my T is out because his son is having surgery (relatively minor, so I'm only missing one session) and he wants to be there for him. I have had those stuck sessions. They are so frustrating for both us and our therapists I think. We want them to understand perfectly what to do to get us out of the stuck place, and they want to understand how to do it, but because we're stuck, neither of us feels like it'll ever work!
I'm glad you're feeling closer to your T. My T once told me as I was leaving to go home, "And if you ever want me to call and yell at your parents for you, I'd be glad to!" He was joking, and he gets really afraid I'll take something to seriously, so then he said, "I was just joking, I wouldn't do that. It'll have to be my fantasy." But it was funny, and it just made me feel closer to him that he would want to do something like that for me, even if I knew he'd never do it.
One of the symptoms/criteria/whatever they call it for PTSD is feeling hopeless about the future, Daisy... It doesn't mean your whole future is tainted, it just means that's how your trauma is affecting you. I have that view a lot too. There's a good book called "I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors" by Aphrodite Matsakis that put it better than I put it.
Anyway, I'm glad to see you posting, and I kind of hope (selfishly) that you'll keep posting, because I learn so much from your posts!
sunnydays
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