Posted by JoniS on January 24, 2008, at 9:09:01
In reply to still miserable about love feelings for therapist, posted by widget on January 23, 2008, at 14:42:46
Dear Widget,
If you only knew how much like all of us you are. "us" meaning all of us who have had the priveldege of a long term therapy relationship.
"...Has anyone else been in this place? The postings I read that in any way refer to this seem very poised, balanced, and reasonable. I am not..."
Your feelings are soooo normal and common - it's part of the process for a lot of people. It seems like people are poised? ... reasonable?... that's funny...
Our feelings and expressions run the gammut. I would even venture to say that no one is any more poised... balanced... as you might be at different times. We all have our "ups and downs" its just that we are not all at the same place at the same time.I'm not communicating so well. I guess I just want to say, as raisin and star have, please dont be hard on yourself. Your feelings are completely natural (odd as that may seem) The struggle is to figure out how to process them. I guess that's where we grow. One thing that has helped me immensely is reading some good books about therapy. I have just finished one just today that I loved, it is called "the intimate hour" by susan bauer. Of course, a book can be very helpful to one person and not at all helpful to another. Maybe just look around, see what you find.
Try and 1) Embrace the fact that you are able to love another as intensely as you do - that says a lot about you 2) Don't try to figure out what your T thinks about you. (most likely he has some loving feelings for you as well) Just accept that he cares and leave it at that. 3) Ask yourself, what can I learn about myself from all of this? (afterall, that is why we go to therapy, right?)
I wish you well. It is difficult -- I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YA!
Joni
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