Posted by rskontos on January 15, 2008, at 21:11:58
In reply to ohmigosh having trouble sorting this out *long*, posted by raisinb on January 15, 2008, at 12:38:03
Raisinb,
I have thought about your post all day before answering. I went to therapy and back before......
my thoughts are this.......
sometimes things are deeply buried and need to be looked at regardless of when we are ready and I think maybe this is time for you to talk to your T about this....for two reasons. The most important one is for you...and for your friend. You do need to go see the baby for your friend but for yourself. You never know how seeing this baby will affect you. It might be better than you realize. A baby is a gift for the family but it can be an unexpected gift for you too. In ways you might never know if you allow fear to hold you back. Fear is guiding you now and not allowing to do something in therapy and for a friend. And while it might be hard for you it might bring healing too and something else....I say as hard as it might be it might also be time, time to get this out with your therapist's help and guidance. Two years is a long time to go with something held inside and not dealt with.......and it would mean alot to your friend. And you did say she was one of your closest friends. Will this not hurt her? I just hate to see you do something you might regret later and not be able to undo....while it might be something that can help you grow. i know it will be hard and you will definitely need your therapist to help, but after all this might be the writing on the wall so to speak. At least think about it.......good luck you are in a tough place and my thoughts are with you...I had to speak my mind, I hope you understand that I had your ultimate peace at heart when I composed this...rsk
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