Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2008, at 22:42:05
In reply to Reentry, posted by Daisym on January 2, 2008, at 21:43:20
Reentry. I like that. Coming from outer space back to home? With all the attendant dangers?
It wasn't *just* that he was gone. It was that you didn't leave on a high note, and the holidays were stressful, and it's hard to look at those hard common sense approaches sometimes and not be angry with ourselves for not doing something that seems so darn obvious. Even if we knew if it were that easy, we'd just do it already.
Therapy does have its limitations and no question that it hurts to bump up against them, no matter how sensitive our therapists may be in handling it. It is inevitable I think.
And I don't think I've ever had a single good session after a break. I don't think it's all on my side either. The rapport has been ruptured a bit and needs time to mend. Fortunately not much time usually.
But, you know, it does get better. Think back a while ago to me. Did you ever ever think I'd be less dependent or less attached like superglue? I didn't. Yet due to circumstances on my side, I really couldn't see him for hmmmm.... nine days? I see him again Friday. And I've been ok. Not woozy disconnected ok. I think of him often and fondly, like I do with Daddy. But I am not living for Friday. I'll be happy to see him, but I don't feel so desperately upset (or numb and detached) as I used to. So it does get better even for someone as attached as I was. Who'd have thought it?
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