Posted by star008 on January 1, 2008, at 1:47:40
In reply to also...questions...., posted by muffled on December 31, 2007, at 22:51:15
I know wht you mean.. and you can feel sorry for them and think about how terrible that must have been for them but for you , you can't find the same compassion and acceptance..I think it is because our self-esteem is still so low that we don't see ourselves as those nice kind babblers who were abused as kids..We still got the shame and the yucks.. I wonder if in little bitty steps w3e could start to feel more for the ikids.. Ultimately we should be able to accept them the way we accept wounded babblers. And maybe Muffled if we accept them we can start accepting ourselves?? I don't know but it seems to make sense to me,,
There was good in my life too but the hurt kid doesn't go away cuz she is still hurting and alone.And you can't possibly walk away from her cuz she is a part of you..can't shut her down for any length of time.. You can try and then she comes back that much louder after being ignored.And then there is more than one of them. I don'tknow how to deal with them either. I don't ave control over who comes out and when but maybe we need to learn that with our T's so we can reach him.. Yeha, not just one hurt lonley kid, that would be easier that trying to deal with several of them.
She don't go away cuz we"re DD.. YOU know all of this i think but I am just repeating it..Another one of my leatures. the hurt kid did seems like a smal part compared to dealing with an entire adult life but you know TAZ'S demand to be heard.. We can tell ourselves all we want that we are adults and can move on but the ikids are stil there and not moving on themselves..so they gotta bug us..
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