Posted by B2chica on October 12, 2007, at 8:31:55
In reply to Any BPD people, I need help, my sister *SI*trig, posted by cactus on October 11, 2007, at 18:39:46
OK cactus...i have several things to say.
Please know that what i am saying is because i think you are a Great person and i just want to help. some may be hard to hear.
there are two parts:1.DON"T feel badly about getting family involved. you Shouldn't have to do it alone! -this is NOT your responsibility cactus. you have a responsibility as a sibling to not harm her. but that ends your responsibility to her.
(let me just say a Large Congratulations on the six months. i think that is Wonderful....especially given the stress and worry you are under right now.
please hang on to that.)and though it may be a last resort, or something you don't want to do, you DO need to put yourself first, Especially with trying to stay clean. Move out if you need to.
"I have considered all of the above and I know for a fact if I leave she will hit the drugs again and lose her job"
This concerns me cactus. Please look at what you are taking on cactus. you are an Amazing sibling, but her starting drugs OR losing her job are NOT your responsibility****************
2. is she currently seeing a Therapist? do they have specific experience with SI and /or BPD. i STRONGLY suggest looking for a T that has that background.
ALSO, you may try two sessions a week, one with T and one with group...DBT
i hear DBT works well with those Dx with BPD.
:^) i even got sent there at one time as they thought i had BPD (im guessing cuz i used to cut alot)
you can look online into DBT thearpy (dialectical behavioral therapy). google marsha linehan and you can get some worksheets and stuff to check out what DBT is all about....she's like the founder or something of DBT.if you feel she will severely hurt herself at a given time then it would be a good idea to get her to a hosp for a while, BUT in my opinion i wouldn't do that just because you're not sure what else to do. 1)there's not much a hosp will do for her actively, except change her meds around (which may not be a bad idea) passively they keep her safe for a few days. but when she gets out i'm guessing there won't be a miracle change in her anger. and she'll be in just as much trouble when she gets out except then she will NOT go to you or any family member since you will be seen as a traitor. and it will be harder in the future to help her.
my BEST advice to you is to get a professional to take on her 'issues'. that will be the Best thing you can do for her. encourage her to continue therapy...offer to go with her, that kind of thing but DON"T and i mean DON"T cater to her outbursts, that is what she is expecting from others and that will not help her.
wow, if she's on lithium and seroquel and not effecting her rage...maybe her doc needs to reevaluate her Rx needs. maybe different mood stabilizer? you may want to post on meds board to get ideas as to what's used with BPD too.
***************************now i've had my say. and please just remember. wow i think you are an AMAZING person. i truly wish i had a brother 1/2 as decent as you.
i just want to help. and hope i didn't say anything to upset you.please keep posting here Cactus.
we just want to help.
PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!
b2c
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thread:788548
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