Posted by B2chica on October 2, 2007, at 11:42:56
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 9:53:31
rskontos....i think it is wise of you to acknowlege your needs...i personally think it is very important when working on "innerkids" to see T at least once a week.
and quite frankly your current doesn't sound like she can meet your needs.
i would suggest looking around for a different T.
someone you can connect with, and that has experience working with dissociative disorders. and one that can meet with you as often as needed.
(*and just a side note i think one reply used the word splitting...i know exactly what was meant but if you mention that to a T they might think your talking about something else...splitting is a term used for those with BPD. i think it means making things all good or all bad -or something like that..i think the term used when switching to different parts is fractured...BUT thats all just symantics-but i wanted to mention it just in case...cuz i want to make sure you have a T specialized in trauma, not BPD.)and of course when we feel better there are a hundred and one reasons why we should NOT go to T.
but you are the best judge of what the future for you may bring. if you feel that things are changing...maybe getting worse or scarier, it is time to start looking for a T.
i always kinda tricked myself when i was feeling good and needed to find a T. i would say, ok, i will look for one but i Don't have to see him right away..i just find the one i like and set up an appt say a month down the line.
then they're there...and once you find one, maybe you will feel really connected to them and that will encourage you to see them enough to form a trust.*****************
about integration...
i think this is a VERY good discussion topic and i would like to hear as many replies on this as possible.
i have several times questioned if i feel i NEEDED to integrate. i guess i'm afraid. i mean, they are there for a reason. part of me doesn't want to loose that protection...will i loose it? and sometimes i get sad, what will happen to them?
i mean i know T tells me they are all part of me and i will not Loose them, but it sometimes feels that way. and i think it scares my little one, though she's not really aware of that concept, but she thinks she's invisible as it is...and are there people that have this level of DD or DID and function well without integration?
and does the DD get worse with time if not integrated?
do you gain more "inner parts' as time goes on (as an adult?) if you don't integrate?
if anyone can answer these questions or even just put their opinions i'd certainly like to hear them...
**didn't mean to hijack your thread rskontos**
i'll make a new thread below.
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