Posted by muffled on October 2, 2007, at 11:15:02
In reply to Re: inner kids..., posted by rskontos on October 2, 2007, at 9:53:31
I am no expert.
But my thots on your situation are:
Sometimes T are not a good fit, and then we need to find a different T.
I think if you are split enuf that you lose time then its doubly important you find a T that is reliable and consistant and available(and who doesn't go away alot!). Preferably with some experience w/splitting, or a least some knowledge and a willingness to learn.
I find that when I am stressed I am WAY more split. When things are going well I rarely notice splitting, and even if I do, its not a big prob, mebbe embarassing at times, but thats about it.
I fortunately do not lose time really. I am VERY thankful for that. It must be frightening :-( But I am glad, I think it was you, that has come to trust that you will be OK, even when you not there at all, that the other parts will take care of your body OK.
I dunno if you have an adult part that can soothe the younger ones at all? Tell them its OK. Be firm with them if they are getting out of control. Tell them they are safe. Etc?
I find communication for me is best in writing. Sometimes I can do it in the bathtub having a nice hot bath. But mostly I don't have a clue what goes on. It just takes too much energy for me to try and figure it out mostly.
So I hope you can find a T that is trustworthy, reliable, consistant, and whatever else is needed for a good fit for you.
Take good care,
Muffled
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