Posted by RealMe on September 30, 2007, at 10:08:55
In reply to Re: To everyone » Cecilia, posted by Daisym on September 30, 2007, at 8:19:22
I echo what Daisy said and would ask if you know anything (even from others) about what life was like for you in general. Neglect, for example, is much worse in a lot of ways than abuse of any sort, physical, mental, or sexual or all of the above because the person who was neglect did not make an attachment to anyone good or bad. At least a "bad" attachment can be fixed in the sense of therapy and making an attachment to someone good. Of course having a bad therapeutic experience with a therapist tends to make it harder (but not impossible) to attach to a new therapist.
I am rambling here, but when I have worked with people who were neglected and perhaps mentally abused, it is very difficult for them to change as they have no idea in the world how to attach to anyone, good, bad, or otherwise. Of course they end up attaching to other people who will tend to be wrapped up in themselves and not able to attach or attach very well. If one was abused and had never attached earlier, then it is doubly bad as the only thing they know is to attach to negative. They don't go looking for therapy either.
I could say more, but if you are interested in at least knowing something about your life, you could ask family or school mates or friends from back then to help with what were you like, and what do they know about what life was like from what they saw. Of course immeidate family might say, Oh things were great. You might have to ask neighbors, for example, if you can track them down. Good luck, and think of what Daisy said. If your can't find any information, then any more work now might focus on how to make your life what you would like it to be in the present and future. I wish you well, and I am sure many here do so too.
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