Posted by TherapyGirl on August 8, 2007, at 20:06:27
In reply to Re: ...when to move on...Observation » JoniS, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2007, at 19:26:38
I agree with you SunnyDays, although I support whatever decision SlugDoo makes.
But I definitely agree with you about giving T's a chance to make it right. And I'm speaking from months of not feeling like I had my T's full attention. On the other hand, one of the important lessons she has taught me (and God knows, it's taken a long time) is HOW to apologize, HOW to make it right when you've hurt someone and HOW to fight to relationship (I'm borrowing Dinah's term here). These were important lessons for me because NO ONE in my family EVER modeled this behavior for me.
So I know where you're coming from and I think it's a side all of us should consider whenever we are thinking of terminating (and it seems like we're all there at one point or another). I hope for SlugDoo that at some point she can have a conversation with her T about what happened. And I didn't find your posts offensive -- I think all of the posts on this thread have been well thought out and I've enjoyed the variety of viewpoints. One of the things that makes this place great is that we learn from each other.
I also believe SlugDoo when she says that she feels like she's gone as far as she could go with her T. I think that's likely true and so I wish her nothing but the best in her new therapy. I suspect (and forgive me, SlugDoo, if I'm wrong about this) that she has known for some time that she needed to make a change and her anger at her T made it easier for her to say goodbye to him. I know that's how it works for me.
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