Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 9, 2007, at 8:27:13
In reply to Re: Sorry to upset anyone » OzLand, posted by JoniS on August 9, 2007, at 7:02:57
Joni and Oz, sunnydays, don't feel like your viewpoints aren't valued, or that you're not fit to be in this community.
Tears are a sad thing sometimes. Sometimes cathartic. Sometimes they are an opportunity.
I guess Doo's post was a complete surprise to many (certainly to me) I thought she was trucking along with the difficult work of EMDR. I thought that she had worked out the scheduling kinks of EMdR sessions + analysis of EMDR sessions. I thought that she felt a special bond with her therapist. I'm relieved to hear that she was able to put the entire therapy experience into perspective, and I respect her for wishing to move on at this point.
I guess I see a couple different issues here
1) many of us were shocked and possibly triggered and reacted from a gut instinct to run far away from the distress
2) many of us were fighting for the therapeutic relationship that Doo has cultivated over the years, thinking that it was in her best interests to contine, or at least get closure
3) none of us wanted Doo to hurt even more by abandoning her T and then finding herself adrift, without an anchor, in these difficult times. I know that she's been reeling from depression, and that the EMDR has been a lot to process.
4) we all wanted to be supportive, but were unsure what support means in this context. Coming from different perspectives I think this was a really interesting dialog and situation.
5) We are all so sorry that Doo was so hurt by all of this. This is one of those life lessons that is SO painful in the present time, but can serve as an opportunity to move forward
6) I was surprised how proactive Doo was at finding another T to pick up some of the EMDR work that was incompleted by her last therapy. I was surprised that she has a good feeling about moving forward, and that her heart seems single minded. I wonder if we'll hear some of the regrets that she has over terminating. Having survived (barely) a fairly brutal termination last summer and a gentle well-planned termination this spring, I know that there are mixed feelings about saying farewell, and mixed feelings about moving forward.
I am sincere that I wish to support Doo in the short run, but I also care about her long-term outcome, and sometimes those run at odds with each other.
When are you going to change your name, Doo? I don't want to call you slug, you are too complicated to be a slug, and you're not slimy or icky either. You're a warm caring person and you have a lot of powerful emotions. I can't exactly imagine a slug having the emotional range of my Dad, much less someone as passionate as you.
And congrats on the music performance. I hope this turns things around. lessens the sting of a bad stage-fright episode. I had one of those once. I will never forget it, and I was shaken for years afterwards.
((((((sDOO)))))))
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