Posted by annierose on July 27, 2007, at 20:51:41
In reply to Re: So different... » DAisym, posted by twinleaf on July 27, 2007, at 20:20:45
Twinleaf -
I think it's true that we learn different things from different people. I agree that your first therapist taught you so many things and your current therapist is adding and expanding its reach. You are so lucky to have found some peace around T1. And fate smiled nicely when T2 and you hit it off immediately.
I love silence. In fact, silence is what got me and my t off track earlier in the year. From my yoga practice, I was becoming more and more comfortable in our silent moments. My therapist thought the silence was hostile. It wasn't anger at all, it was comfort. I told her it reminded me when my son was sick. He would lie on the couch and want me just to sit by his side. He didn't want me to talk, just be with him. And I understood that need. I think her reaction to my quietier moments said more about her than me. It made her uncomfortable. She felt like she wasn't doing her job. She is much happier now that I am talking more. (Except I am week two of a three week vacation ... yikes! ... talk about silence.)
You have mentioned Daniel Stern's work before and I have talked about him with my therapist. I think I will read the book Daisy reccommended too.
Interesting, I have decided to sit on her couch when she returns for a session or two. I haven't sat in over a year. I am missing too much by shutting my eyes.
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