Posted by muffled on May 28, 2007, at 17:42:33
In reply to thanks.. update, posted by wishingstar on May 28, 2007, at 17:24:12
(((Wishy)))
Sigh, not easy. But I still say you did the right thing. you truly had no choice. Just plain sucks. Give yourself a break, and some credit, for doing the hard, but responsible thing. You are functioning as a responsible adult and thats a hard,but good thing.
IMHO I think you need to be clear to the kid and honest with the kid about how you felt. That the session was OK but with the other stuff there was no other choice for you etc. Maybe you could present it to her as she being reasonable and intelligent to understand? I nhave found in my dealings even with people that are more marginal, that if you are straight with them, and honest, and treat them with the utmost respect and unconditional acceptance, that they tend to calm down and eventually respond with mutual respect.
Just don't make it like you trying to make excuses or explain away yourself. Be strong in your conviction that you did what was needed to be done.
It can be reassuring to have someone calm and sure of themselves. It can be good in a way that someone cares enough to respect you. Its HUGE.
I been in some rough positions myself, and when there, those who treated me with kindenss and esp respect was SO HUGE important to me.
I ramble, but anyhow, wishy, I think you doing good.
Take care,
Muffled
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