Posted by sunnydays on May 27, 2007, at 12:08:51
In reply to Re: afraid T will go away (long), posted by Wittgenstein on May 27, 2007, at 10:43:53
> Sunnydays, I'm sorry you're hurting. You need to talk to your T about your fears - even if the thing about the chair feels silly, it will help. You're not childish to feel the way you do - it's a real fear - if it's the situation you've faced in the past, it's going to bring back those same feelings when you feel you are facing the same situation now.
**** Yeah... transference. He never uses that word, but he's been saying things like, "Let's imagine this fear isn't about me, since you know I'm not going to leave." And then it becomes obvious it's connected to my past.
Something 'small' like a different chair is a big thing in the therapeutic space - nothing is missed - you're not being childish to let these things worry you and I'm sure your T will understand why this and your graduation evoke these fears.
**** Yeah. My graduation isn't as big for me because it's a ways off. I also may end up staying near her for grad school so I might be able to see him and not just talk on the phone. The chair thing, though -- does seem a little bit childish to me. The other chair was still right there in the office and nothing else was different, so why I would think that meant he was leaving I don't know.
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> It sounds like you have a great T - I hope he can support you through your fears.
>**** He will be able to. He's stuck by me this far.
Thanks,
sunnydays
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