Posted by Honore on May 21, 2007, at 10:38:11
In reply to Re: T Update LONG -- ** Trigger** » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on May 21, 2007, at 9:49:57
TherapyGirl, it sounds like a very worthwhile discussion. Maybe you should be a T. Your approach with your T was so-- well, mature-- and willing to accept and work with her limitations and constricted point of view. Just to be able to keep going, when it was really not a good reaction on her part, and a sensitive issue-- to be able to be annoyed-- but not so furious or afraid, even though it was a question of safety.
I think you were right to move away from the issue of the woman per se, and go to the feeling of safety-- and the office environment in different ways-- and how you don't feel comfortable there. Did you discuss the woman's role at all-- or did you come to think that she mostly made you more aware of your sense of not being safe in the office in general?
I especially liked your using the metaphor of being cold and hot-- that people can experience emotional reactions differently, and it can be just as concrete and reasonable a difference-- It captures how real emotions are-- and makes them much more difficult to put aside as "your problem."
Maybe she's not am ideally sensitive T-- but you and she sound like you're evolved a strong and solid ground for working on issues-. I'm sure if you've been seeing her for such a long time, that you and she have been through a lot together. I'll be interested to hear if she's able to show you that she does understand-- and if it does help to change your sense of safety in the church-- even though it hasnt' yet.
Honore
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