Posted by wishingstar on May 10, 2007, at 9:26:28
In reply to Re: Crying. Help me. » wishingstar, posted by ElaineM on May 9, 2007, at 21:36:41
Good for you for emailing her back. I know it's hard but Im glad you did. I hope she can say something that will make this all feel a little bit better.
I have a similar relationship (emails, etc) with my old T Laurie. She doesnt always respond, but its always okay to email her. I do every few weeks. A few months ago, she emailed me and said she needed to take a step back and be less involved, etc etc. My initial reaction was to be very hurt. BUT, she added in a bit about why. Had she not done so, I would have definitely felt like it was me/something I'd done, but she didnt give me the chance to feel that way much. She said it was because she was having a hard time letting go and was feeling like she needed to "keep an eye on me", even though I wasnt her client anymore.. so she had to back off for her own boundaries and sanity. She said it wasnt anything I did wrong.
I guess I just share that as an example of it happening and it truly not being your "fault" or anything you did. I hope that she is able to respond to you with a good explanation like Laurie did. But good job in asking for that clarification! You're really hurting and it took strength to do that. I'm proud of you.
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