Posted by Honore on April 22, 2007, at 11:41:01
In reply to Re: when is therapy too much? » Daisym, posted by gazo on April 22, 2007, at 8:09:58
Hi, Gazo.
The issues you raise are important. I think you can discuss the financial one with your T, and try to get some idea how you and he could handle a transitional reduction in your finances. He might be able to reassure you on that, or at least put you into a position to make a solid judgment about that element of your future with him.
About whether going into the past would push you too far,--you might also ask him about it. Perhaps you and he could try to remain somehwat more focussed on immediate or daily concerns, with only occasional excursions back into your earlier history, as your level of trust and comfort increases.
Sometimes it takes time to build a foundation for that sort of unleashing of demons. Even now, there are definitely times when my T and I try to remain on lighter topic-- even being almost chatty-- when it seems that other issues will tear the fabric of security (insofar as I have it) or decent functioning that I"ve been building up. When I seem more able to contain things, we move into harder areas. It does take time for a T to know how much to broach those things-- and to have the finesse to lead you away form them in a creditable way, if they start opening up.
If this T is someone you really can trust, as you've said you feel, I would try to keep the relationship going, as long as the financial element is safe. Even though it's hard at times not to go to the worst things, maybe he can help you, if you ask him, to stay on slightly surer ground.
Honore
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