Posted by Racer on March 22, 2007, at 12:53:42
In reply to Re: Funk, posted by Dinah on March 22, 2007, at 12:26:34
> > > She commented on some things I've done well and I just wanted to *scream* at her, "I AM NOT DOING WELL!!!"
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> > That I understand. I appear like I am doing great to other people... say the "right" things about how I am doing. It's always been disappointing to me that noone has ever really bothered to look deeper or ask more questions. If you can't tell her that you aren't doing well... can you tell her that sometimes you can't seem to express yourself and you need her to probe a little deeper? That's what I am going to ask my new T to do.. I just can't break through my own barriers to reach out.
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> I always hate that too. It always seems to reduce who I am to what I do. And it generally makes me feel like I need to "do" badly to be heard. I think my therapist tries really hard not to paint me in that corner.That's part of anorexia for a lot of people -- since anorexics often can't *say* that we're not doing well, we try to communicate it through our bodies, by losing weight. Making it literally visible to others that we're not doing well, and need help.
It doesn't work.
Hard as it is, learning to say it is a Good Thing. Of course, part of that is learning to say it appropriately, to an appropriately responsive party, is the key to it. If you say, "I'm just not doing at all well" to someone who'll just reply, "Yes you are, here are three things you did well, so you're just fine" -- well, we all know how that turns out, right?
Jammer, is your T responsive to you? Or are there other problems in there?
At least we all have one another here, right? I'm sorry you're in a funk. (And it's started up an earworm for me: "aaww we want the funk, gotta have that funk...")
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