Posted by happykat on January 17, 2007, at 14:21:21
In reply to Mother Stuff, posted by Daisym on January 16, 2007, at 23:04:51
Daisy,
Please disregard my post above. I think I was kind of figuring out my own stuff and it came out sounding all wrong. I apologize. :(
I'm really sorry you're going thru such a rough time. The mother-daughter stuff can feel pretty raw sometimes. It's hard. :(
> The topic of today's session was "Mothers and the daughters who fail them."
>***I think the topic should be daughters and the mothers who fail them.***
I think the fact that you've gone on to be a great mom speaks volumes about you. A lot of people who have bad childhoods just repeat it with their kids. You've obviously managed to not repeat the same mistakes that your mom did. That's a huge accomplishment.
>>Sometimes I can feel the little girl inside me waiting for her mommy to come and rescue her. Sometimes I feel so desperate -- if I don't have her then who do I have?<<It's really hard when that younger more vulnerable part of you yearns so much for things to turn out right. I feel like I've spent a lifetime trying to fill that void. But at some point I think it comes down to realizing no one is going to rescue us. We must rescue ourselves. And that just sucks!
>>Why is trying to be perfect such a bad thing to be?! <<
***Unfortunately, being perfect usually means you aren't being true to yourself. You are being perfect for everyone but you. You deserve to come first. No one can do that for you but yourself.***
(OK wait. I feel like slapping myself. My t has told me this stuff many times and I want to slap her each time she says it. So I'm slapping myself for you) :)
I know its really hard! :( Hang in there!
Regards,
happykat
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