Posted by pegasus on December 19, 2006, at 22:09:18
In reply to Re: Does anyone have a signal?, posted by Dinah on December 19, 2006, at 12:07:33
I'm glad to hear that you're talking about it with him, Dinah. And that he apologized.
My signal is to put my hands over my ears, usually along with curling up into a ball. It's pretty hard to ignore that. And it's pretty clear that I can't handle anything more coming in, and that nothing is going to come out. Although, I suppose it's a bit dramatic. Fortunately when I get into that state, closing off input feels pretty instinctive, so I don't feel like I'm dramatizing anything. My T generally responds by stopping talking, and waiting. Then saying something about being concerned about me. ;) My husband, on the other hand, gets really huffy when I do it to him. ;)
I guess that doesn't help. I think the two finger thing seems like a good thing to try. Let us know how it works, whenever you have to use it. I hope your T remembers what it means.
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