Posted by ElaineM on December 7, 2006, at 14:14:46
In reply to Re: he's also said... » Karolina, posted by muffled on December 5, 2006, at 23:38:13
Karolina, Long time no see :-)
No one in my family has ever understood either about why therapy takes "so long". I would say to try and not let family's comments bother you, or influence how long you stay, or how little. It's impossible for anyone else but the two of you to know what it's like in your sessions. They are outside of that box (I guess) and so they can't understand the exact context. But also cause, they aren't you and haven't lived your life. When my mom said stuff like that before, I've tried to remember that she probably doesn't know she's commenting blindly. Sometimes I find that "time" statements hurt cause I think they can sound like, "Ok, enough of that. Stop being broken. Indulgent self-pity Over!" But...
Maybe also your mom doesn't really understand therapy (if she's never been in it herself). I know my mother doesn't even know how to turn on a computer, so something as "wacky" as therapy is really beyond her, in a way.
About the comments he's making: He sounds like he's fighting with himself. Be careful [said the pot to the kettle - I know. sorry if I sound like a hypocrit. But still.] I wouldn't trust Him to protect you from his intentions, if that's what he has - I'd trust you to do it more. [Though maybe I'm jumping the gun - if you're alright with hearing stuff like that, and it doesn't bother you, then maybe it's not something you need to worry about - I don't want to layer my own feelings on your situation, ya know. You probably have a better sense of it than me]
But really, I don't know what else to say :( Write about it if it helps. Sorry I'm late to your thread, but glad to see you post again.
(((((((((K))))))))))
Thinking of you, cause I care.
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