Posted by Lindenblüte on November 11, 2006, at 15:06:56
In reply to rs- i didn't bash anyone - i was bashed. » rs, posted by kerria on November 11, 2006, at 14:53:41
Sometimes even our friends and loved ones say things that hurt us. Maybe they mean well, kind of like a mother who has to clean her child's scrape with peroxide. She does this, knowing that it will sting and burn, but out of love nonetheless.
And sometimes our friends don't know us well enough to know what hurts and what is okay.
Sometimes they are being careless, and forgetful.
Sometimes even our best friends will strike out deliberately- not because they want to inflict damage on us, but because they are hurting SO bad themselves that they don't know any other way to express it than by spreading the pain.
Try to remember that you love your friends, Kerria, and that those deep bonds are stronger than a single conversation. Try to remember the history and the feelings, and when your hurt has subdued a litte, you may be able to understand what happened in a different way.
-Li
oh- you may want to be careful of civility guidelines if you start referring to a particular person who has hurt you, but may be a part of the psycho-babble community. please take care of you, Kerria, try to get some rest and reach out for some comfort in your surroundings.
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