Posted by madeline on October 30, 2006, at 6:34:38
Several weeks ago, I had a devastating breakup with a man that I loved more than anything.
I really don't want to go into the lurid details, but suffice it to say I was honest, and he - well, was somewhat less than that.
I will further add that I felt as though I had been kicked in the stomach by something really really big.
When he revealed his true feelings, I left and have had no interaction with him since the breakup.
I've been trucking along, but lately my T has almost been insisting that I call my ex-boyfriend, tell him how I feel and give him a chance to respond.
My T is one smart guy, and I trust his judgement, but his latest suggestion is causing me a lot of conflict.
On one hand, maybe there could be some kind of closure (what in the heck is that anyway), but how I really feel is that I would just be stepping up to the plate and letting that man kick me in the stomach again.
Not only that, but I can't believe that my T would advocate that I put myself in that position to begin with.
I just really don't see how anything good could come from me calling him.
I know this may seem like a minor matter in the big scheme of things, but I could really use some advice.
What would you guys do, trust your T or go with your gut?
Maddie
poster:madeline
thread:698958
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