Posted by pegasus on October 3, 2006, at 12:20:41
In reply to I don't know what I want, posted by Daisym on October 2, 2006, at 23:42:53
I'm sorry it's hard, Daisy. I wish good things for you, too.
My thoughts about the T relationship recently are along the lines of how maybe it's so painful because it's invoking a fundamental human need (for attachment) in a way that we weren't really designed for. We're designed to attach to our completely caring, ever present, protective and nurturing mothers. Instead, if we're lucky, we attach to an intermittently there, boundaried, etc therapist. Of course it's confusing. It's good and helpful, but also we naturally want something quite different - both more than we get, and less than we get in various ways. I wonder if it would be more healing to actually get another chance at having a motherlike caregiver. I'm thinking probably not, at least once we're adults.
I hope you can sometimes feel the beauty of your tender heart, along with the pain of it.
((daisy))
p
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