Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2006, at 10:24:39
In reply to Re: T's and hugging, posted by Racer on September 30, 2006, at 23:03:36
I don't like to be touched. It took me well over five years before I wished any contact at all. Then I'd just ask for a handshake on rare occasion.
At about eight or nine years, I started talking about hug issues on Babble, making clear that I wasn't talking about me. He was careful, realizing that I could be talking about me. At ten years I asked for a hug. I asked him if he wanted to discuss the reason. He said after ten years, just asking was a good enough reason. I've had less than a handful since then, and once was his hugging me when he saw me for the first time after Katrina where he was staying in his city of evacuation, and once was when I was in strong hsyterics because he was moving. And boy, that time was a story. We'd been in the city for a day, and we hadn't run the water yet, it was steaming hot and no way to bathe, but we'd arranged a session before we went back to our evacuation city. I stunk to high heaven. And as I sobbed and heaved and he sat with his arm around me, I kept wailing between gasps that "I smeeelllllll". Which I really really did.
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