Posted by llrrrpp on July 24, 2006, at 21:58:12
In reply to HELP WITH ABANDONMENT, posted by iarosepetal on July 24, 2006, at 21:28:34
Hi Iarosepetal,
Welcome
I'm sorry you had to deal with such a difficult time with therapy. Warning: I'm completely unexperienced and ignorant about client-T relationships. It sounds like your T got in over his head with you, and tried his best to mend the therapeutic relationship. Eventually he decided that it was irreparable, and terminated, because it was in the best interests of both him and you.I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you can work with a new T and trust enough to share your story. You are articulate and I think that you can communicate it to your new T someday. A lot of people practice posting here and getting feedback before they work up the nerve to tell T something. Psycho-babble Psychology board is good for that.
I hope you will learn to recognize that your feelings for your [former] T are not wrong. And they're your feelings, so they're not your fault either. The T should have had a better grasp of the situation and helped you out of it in a less hurtful manner. With time, I think these wounds will heal. It may be a lot of work, but you deserve to get the treatment that will make you feel better about yourself.
best of luck, and don't be afraid to start slow with your new T. You can work on trust issues, and then use your story, as you've written it below to help the therapist understand where you're coming from.
Can you tell yourself that you're on the way to healing?
yours,
-ll
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