Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2006, at 2:05:44
In reply to saw Anne on Thurs... long, posted by wishingstar on July 23, 2006, at 18:23:19
If Anne isn't right for you and has never been, then stopping now and then to assess that and decide what to do in the future is a good idea. If you need something different, you need something different.
But I wouldn't let what happened today decide. My therapist would have reacted along the same lines. He would have been not too happy about my seeing two therapists, and never happy about any comparisons - unless perhaps they were in his favor. And even then he would have dismissed them a bit and refused to judge.
And he gets a bit defensive when I tell him things to do differently. If I tell him there's something I'd rather he didn't do, since I don't find it helpful, he might think about it and decide I'm right. But if I tell him I'd rather he did that he never does, because I would find it useful, he'd fold his arms and tell me he is who he is, and this is how he does therapy. Don't ask me the difference. I've never figured it out. But he's flexible on the one, and intractable on the other.
I wasn't there, and don't know the tones of voice or facial or body cues. But it doesn't sound all that awful to me - not this one session. It just sounds like she's a bit annoyed about the two therapist thing, and the conflicts it can and almost invariably does bring. I'd be very happy that she doesn't like the word manipulative, since I don't much care for it either.
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